I have decided to do tomorrow’s Daily Dose tonight while some thoughts are fresh in my mind. Today I overheard multiple conversations as I waited in lines, sat among others and just generally was out in public. It’s always amazing to me what people will say and discuss on cell phones while in public. Do they not realize that everyone can hear them? Or, do they just not care?
Anyway, what really caught my ear today were the number of discussions that involved how parents are handling their children these days. I’m guessing that parent/teacher conferences must have occurred this week, because many conversations revolved around performance levels of the children. It was very enlightening.
What I heard today were parents who were frustrated because their child did not excel in every category. I heard parents lamenting that their child received a B in a particular topic which ruined their perfect 4.0. The parent was horrified and angry with the child! I heard one parent discussing what privileges would be taken away from their child because they failed to bring up 2 grades from the last grading period. I’m thinking the children are failing, but further discussion revealed the standing grades were both high B’s. What?
I listened to the frustration in their voices and their solutions – all of which involved the removal of privileges, and adding pressure on the children to “make them perform”. Not one conversation involved understanding or encouragement. And I thought to myself, ‘and so it begins’.
I certainly was not a perfect parent, and I likely applied pressure to my boys often. But if I learned anything from my experience as a mom, it is that applying pressure to children generally does not result in the outcome you think it will. Kids are under enough pressure in today’s society without parents adding to it because a grade of B was received instead of an A. What are parents thinking??
I implore you, if you have children, focus on what is important in your relationship with your offspring. Trust me, that B won’t mean a thing 10 years from now. Your understanding, your encouragement will mean the world to your son or daughter now and in the future. And although I realize that pressure is what changes coal to diamonds, it takes thousands of years! Neither you nor your children will be around thousands of years from now, so lighten up!! And remember, those standing near you and around you CAN hear everything you are saying about and to your child. Watch your language!
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